The effective and the ineffective way to grow and heal

[roger]

The effective approach: Just accept yourself as you are and do what makes you happy.

 

 

The ineffective approach: Try very hard to improve and overcome all your flaws.

Edited July 14, 2017 by roger

[liminal_luke]

Or you could take the two approaches and just mix them up so you`ve got a little bit of both in each growthful bite.  Every moment of acceptance tinged with the effort to improve; every effort to improve tinged with acceptance.  Works for me.

[roger]

6 hours ago, liminal_luke said:

Or you could take the two approaches and just mix them up so you`ve got a little bit of both in each growthful bite.  Every moment of acceptance tinged with the effort to improve; every effort to improve tinged with acceptance.  Works for me.

 

Good point.

 

Another way to put it is, just focus on having your integrity and making good choices in the present moment. Let the emphasis be on doing the right thing (however one defines 'the right thing') NOW, and that's how to make progress.

 

I know what you mean though and I think it's a wise and loving view.