Critcakea Posted September 18, 2017 I work at a restaurant and I notice that when your energy has a huge effect on people around you and how you communicate.Let me give you an example I generally have a high energy.But I was talking to a girl that I really like and a guy told me that he was with her at her place the other day.My energy collapsed at that point.Like it was intense negative.This happens alot.Its like I'm attached to a certain feeling or relationship and when that changes or I can't go back to that feeling I feel if everything collapses.I am conscious enough for me to stay centered and calm through these episodes.They don't make me as mad anymore I guess because I'm use to them and I'm very strong mentally.But is there a way to prevent this?I try to not get attach to people or certain life situations because of this but it seems like such a hassle constantly worrying about my vibe crashing. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marblehead Posted September 18, 2017 Hello, Critcakea and welcome. Your membership is approved and we're happy you found your way to us. We look forward to accompanying you on some of the way that you still have to go. Please take the time to read the post pinned at the top of this Welcome page and take a look at the forum Terms and Rules. This covers all you need to know when getting started. For the first week you will be restricted to ten posts per day but after that you can post as much as you like. Also, until you’ve posted fifteen times in the forums, you’ll be a “Junior Bum” with somewhat restricted access and will be allowed only two private messages per day. Good luck in your pursuits and best wishes to you, Marblehead and the TDB team Hi Crit, I knew exactly what you are talking about above. Been there, done that. I found that it was my expectations of others. I built a set of expectations of a person solely based on what I wanted. Then I mentally met the person and found out they didn't meet my expectations. Becoming attached isn't the problem. Establishing expectations and then attaching our self to these expectations is the problem. We must accept or reject people into our life based on who/what "they are" rather than what we wanted them to be. You are welcome to jump right in ongoing discussions, revive an older thread, start a new thread of your own, or start a discussion in the "Newcomer Corner" sub-forms to expand on your introduction or ask general questions to help you get started. May you enjoy your time here. Marblehead 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RiverSnake Posted September 18, 2017 Blocked channels, energetic cords, failed expectations....etc. The stronger and more flowing your energy is the less external energies affect you. This takes time and cultivation to achieve. Welcome to TDB. 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff Posted September 18, 2017 As WayofChi stated, it is really about you having a fear/issue stored in your energy body. When the guy told you about being with the girl, conscious mind energy flow "hit" the subconscious fear/issue of desire (or being unloved) and things crashed. But such real world issues can be helpful, as you noticed the flow difference, rather than just get caught up in the emotion. Maybe try to look into why it bothered you so much, Best, Jeff 8 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted September 18, 2017 7 hours ago, WayofChi said: The stronger and more flowing your energy is the less external energies affect you. This takes time and cultivation to achieve Hi WayofChi, Yes and yes. I can figure out what you are saying. 6 hours ago, Jeff said: But such real world issues can be helpful, as you noticed the flow difference, rather than just get caught up in the emotion. Maybe try to look into why it bothered you so much, Hi Jeff, Good to be mindful? Look into the mind? - LimA 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
