thelerner Posted November 20, 2017 12 hours ago, thelerner said: Spending time with my elderly father and ailing mother can be very trying. Yet what helps was knowing I had a job to do, so suck it up and not adding to any anxiety. Hard yet, once I had that as my goal, mantra even, it became easier to put my ego away and not let my buttons be pushed. 12 hours ago, cold said: Filial responsibilities and duties are sadly legally mandated in some cases / states thelearner I know from your past posts that's not the case for you No body can push a persons buttons better than ones parent, and spouse then sibling(s) Thing is, with my relationship with my dad is we both enrage each other at times but we also know it's temporary. So we can be expressive, him more then me, but we snap out of it. Putting on the mindset of 'job to do' is temporary. Not holding a grudge, moving on, doing our best to be friendly and helpful gets us back on an even keel. til one, or the other sets the cycle rolling again. I owe many debts of gratitude to my father.. so one keeps going, taking the good with the bad. good training really. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
