Lost in Translation Posted November 26, 2018 I have found that when I am tense I curl my fingers into a kind of fist. Likewise I have found when I straighten my fingers it relaxes me. The mind drives the body, but the body also leads the mind. So, make it a point to SMILE! It really will cheer you up. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted November 26, 2018 My problem especially when driving is my jaw tenses up. I tell myself the same thing to smile and relax. Every couple of miles I have to smile again! Isn't a little curl in the fingers natural though? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lost in Translation Posted November 26, 2018 3 minutes ago, Robert said: Isn't a little curl in the fingers natural though? Yes, but I'm talking about a "U" shape with the fingers, not a "(" shape. I've also found that I cross my legs when nervous, so intentionally uncrossing them similarly relaxes me. There is actually an entire science of body language that discusses unconscious "tells" that let a skilled interviewer/interrogator understand and manipulate a person. It's a fascinating body of knowledge. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nungali Posted November 26, 2018 1 hour ago, Lost in Translation said: Yes, but I'm talking about a "U" shape with the fingers, not a "(" shape. Turn that 'finger frown' upside down 2 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lost in Translation Posted November 27, 2018 4 hours ago, Nungali said: Turn that 'finger frown' upside down Such a happy picture! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gerard Posted November 27, 2018 Smile like a flower not only with my lips but with my whole being. Rumi This is an entirely different kind of smile. 2 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lost in Translation Posted November 27, 2018 Smile on the outside and thus smile on the inside. Give the kindness of your true self. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rideforever Posted November 27, 2018 That reminds me I am having a filling done at the dentist tomorrow. Drill baby drill. Smile !!! Actually been doing some outer dissolving on the teeth recently. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nungali Posted November 27, 2018 I gave up on that . I am going to see a smiley Thai dancer ... in person . Sit on the beach and then ...... one of these . 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nungali Posted November 27, 2018 (apparently it will also 'improve my appearance' - my lawyer said I 'Look like someone that would stab someone' Then a few from my club went to visit another club (martial arts ) , and their instructor says to me " You dont need to train with weapons, you just shoot people and then bury them in the backyard. " WTF ! ? Gotta work on my smile ! A few weeks in Thailand might do it ! .... whoa! ummmmmm ...... 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lost in Translation Posted November 27, 2018 2 hours ago, Nungali said: - my lawyer said I 'Look like someone that would stab someone' Guffaw. 2 hours ago, Nungali said: Then a few from my club went to visit another club (martial arts ) , and their instructor says to me " You dont need to train with weapons, you just shoot people and then bury them in the backyard. " WTF ! ? Gasp! 2 hours ago, Nungali said: I am going to see a smiley Thai dancer ... in person . Sit on the beach Aw... Good idea. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Toni Posted November 30, 2018 smile with all the cells of your body! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
doc benway Posted November 30, 2018 23 minutes ago, Toni said: smile with all the cells of your body! And smile at everyone with whom you make eye contact. You can feel the connection and love when they smile back! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lost in Translation Posted November 30, 2018 I have been practicing smiling because I want to make myself lighter. I want my interactions with others to be more pleasant and feel that by starting the (non verbal) conversation with a smile I set a better tone for the interactions that follow. Also it makes me feel better. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wandelaar Posted November 30, 2018 Deliberately starting to smile admittedly is somewhat forced, but hopefully others will appreciate your good intention behind it. When they show their appreciation of your good intention by smiling back at you, than that will give you reason for a real smile. And so no matter how contrived it started, some real joy may very well result. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lost in Translation Posted November 30, 2018 1 hour ago, wandelaar said: Deliberately starting to smile admittedly is somewhat forced, but hopefully others will appreciate your good intention behind it Table waiting and bar tending basics. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nungali Posted November 30, 2018 2 hours ago, wandelaar said: Deliberately starting to smile admittedly is somewhat forced, but hopefully others will appreciate your good intention behind it. When they show their appreciation of your good intention by smiling back at you, than that will give you reason for a real smile. And so no matter how contrived it started, some real joy may very well result. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wandelaar Posted November 30, 2018 10 minutes ago, Nungali said: Don't know where that picture is from, but it perfectly illustrates my point: it's the perceived intention behind the smile that's relevant. When the perceived intention is malignant (as in the above case) than the smile will not lead to joy. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
doc benway Posted December 2, 2018 On 11/30/2018 at 2:09 PM, wandelaar said: Don't know where that picture is from, but it perfectly illustrates my point: it's the perceived intention behind the smile that's relevant. When the perceived intention is malignant (as in the above case) than the smile will not lead to joy. It’s Ryunosuke Tsukue, played by Tatsuya Nakadai, from the film Sword of Doom. Great samurai flick by Kihachi Okimoto. It’s based on a famous and popular Japanese serial from the early 20th century titled Daibosatsu Toge. Great story about an itinerant and unbeatable ronin. Okimoto planned a trilogy of films but died after the first so the ending is a bit unsatisfying for many. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dawei Posted December 2, 2018 Mantak Chia's Inner Smile is but a footnote to how life should be lived Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
manitou Posted December 5, 2018 On 11/30/2018 at 6:34 AM, steve said: And smile at everyone with whom you make eye contact. You can feel the connection and love when they smile back! I think when you look into the black pupils of another you're looking into the Void. The thing that we all possess and makes us One. We all have the pupils, it seems to be the only physicality common to all of us. Just guessing. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nungali Posted December 5, 2018 (edited) On 02/12/2018 at 12:45 PM, steve said: It’s Ryunosuke Tsukue, played by Tatsuya Nakadai, from the film Sword of Doom. Great samurai flick by Kihachi Okimoto. It’s based on a famous and popular Japanese serial from the early 20th century titled Daibosatsu Toge. Great story about an itinerant and unbeatable ronin. Okimoto planned a trilogy of films but died after the first so the ending is a bit unsatisfying for many. Unbeatable ? Only if you will NOT fight someone that CAN beat you from 2:30 . Edited December 5, 2018 by Nungali 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
doc benway Posted December 5, 2018 (edited) 6 hours ago, Nungali said: Unbeatable ? Only if you will NOT fight someone that CAN beat you from 2:30 . Another fan!? Well met! Are you a fan of Nagisa Oshima? Gohatto? Edited December 6, 2018 by steve Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
