Hi, I am new, I would like guidance

[Raúl]

Hi. I came to this forum randomly, I found a link to it in the forum of No Fap. I was in that forum because, after retaining my energies (no ejaculation) for 11 days, I had a nocturnal emissions. This happened before the two concerts I had as a guitarrist. You can imagine, no energy=bad concert=anxiety.

 

To this day, the most days I have been without ejaculating have been 2 weeks, and I know perfectly week what path should I take and what sacrifices I must do. Right now I live a very healthy life, stretching every day, physical exercices, rich and balanced diet, no drugs, reading good material, no excessive cell phone use... No videogames, porn, pointless entertainment in general. I am very focused on my musical career and my talents. But my problem is with sexual energy. 

 

I am a rare being, and I have the combination of very good genetic material and levels of energy + problematic childhood full of depression, conflicts, early addiction to porn, and drugs. Everything has passed now, I'm fine and certain, and in fact the only consequences I have (even if I will forever live the consequences of my acts) it's nocturnal emissions. I obviously no longer masturbate, and please if you think masturbation is healthy and there is nothing wrong with it don't even bother posting. I am in the need of support from people really experienced in the path to real life.

Not that you have to help me or something, but I'd appreciate and I'll share what I have in return.

 

I have some questions:

What is dao? I have seen various disciplines in this forum, which one do you recommend me?

I have always studied about different materials, everything that is usefull, from zen to Buddhism to biomolecular biology, but I never sticked to one.

 

What can you suggest me to stop nocturnal emissions every 11-14 days? I understand that if I have been addicted to porn since I was a child and it is what I have fed, that simple fact that I even have a chance to recover is miraculous in itself, but I am bothered by it. Specially because I am a musician, because I still young (22) and I want to remain happy to share that with the world.

I no longer feed any fantasy, or have the desire to masturbate or watch anything, I do yoga daily and I started doing a special stretchment for the kidneys yesterday to see if that helps

Also, I have noticed recently that when I walk on the street I have this subliminal thing in me which looks at the corner of my eye and thinks... Is that a how chick? I think that this might be feeding the nocturnal emissions, even if I no longer masturbate or conciously have fantasies or desires. 

 

I don't know if this forum is the place to seek this kind of help, but if not just, hi! I'll be around here to see what is shared and what I can learn from all of you.

 

 

[sean]

Welcome @Raúl 👋

[Apech]

9 hours ago, Raúl said:

Hi. I came to this forum randomly, I found a link to it in the forum of No Fap. I was in that forum because, after retaining my energies (no ejaculation) for 11 days, I had a nocturnal emissions. This happened before the two concerts I had as a guitarrist. You can imagine, no energy=bad concert=anxiety.

 

To this day, the most days I have been without ejaculating have been 2 weeks, and I know perfectly week what path should I take and what sacrifices I must do. Right now I live a very healthy life, stretching every day, physical exercices, rich and balanced diet, no drugs, reading good material, no excessive cell phone use... No videogames, porn, pointless entertainment in general. I am very focused on my musical career and my talents. But my problem is with sexual energy. 

 

I am a rare being, and I have the combination of very good genetic material and levels of energy + problematic childhood full of depression, conflicts, early addiction to porn, and drugs. Everything has passed now, I'm fine and certain, and in fact the only consequences I have (even if I will forever live the consequences of my acts) it's nocturnal emissions. I obviously no longer masturbate, and please if you think masturbation is healthy and there is nothing wrong with it don't even bother posting. I am in the need of support from people really experienced in the path to real life.

Not that you have to help me or something, but I'd appreciate and I'll share what I have in return.

 

I have some questions:

What is dao? I have seen various disciplines in this forum, which one do you recommend me?

I have always studied about different materials, everything that is usefull, from zen to Buddhism to biomolecular biology, but I never sticked to one.

 

What can you suggest me to stop nocturnal emissions every 11-14 days? I understand that if I have been addicted to porn since I was a child and it is what I have fed, that simple fact that I even have a chance to recover is miraculous in itself, but I am bothered by it. Specially because I am a musician, because I still young (22) and I want to remain happy to share that with the world.

I no longer feed any fantasy, or have the desire to masturbate or watch anything, I do yoga daily and I started doing a special stretchment for the kidneys yesterday to see if that helps

Also, I have noticed recently that when I walk on the street I have this subliminal thing in me which looks at the corner of my eye and thinks... Is that a how chick? I think that this might be feeding the nocturnal emissions, even if I no longer masturbate or conciously have fantasies or desires. 

 

I don't know if this forum is the place to seek this kind of help, but if not just, hi! I'll be around here to see what is shared and what I can learn from all of you.

 

 

 

 

Hi and welcome,

 

I'll let people with more knowledge than me give you a detailed answer about the Dao and so on - or you could search the board, there's lots of threads on every subject.  I think probably overall you're doing ok, physically and health wise - I wonder if you have looked at working on your emotions, not in an indulgent way but on the basis that emotions and energy are closely connected (or some might say the same thing).  I'm not suggesting therapy or anything but just more observing of the cycles you go through and how you feel about things and yourself - try and tune that in with yoga and meditation perhaps - especially around the 11 -14 days thing (apart from hot chicks on the street  ).  I think you need quite a high level of harmony for celibacy and its hard to achieve - so don't feel down if you fail occasionally.  Just look with interest to see what's going on.

 

Just some thoughts.

 

Good luck

[thelerner]

I'm not sure what Dao is, but in action I think its connected to harmony with nature; internal and external.  Thus I'd recommend against celibacy.  If you're not in a direct program that requires it then a healthy discipline might be better, ie finding harmony with your body's natural cycles, not fighting them.  There are sophisticated systems that use and transform 'jing' energy, that are advanced.  If you're not in such a formal system it tends to be skating up hill.  my opinion, there are others..

 

Systems.. when young look at a couple, try'em out.  I recommend not going for flashy promises, but look at ones that stress solid foundations.  You won't become the teacher, rather your most likely to become an average student, so look at those.  Are they happy?  healthy?  cult-like or knowledgeable?  

 

Ultimately you'll need to 'marry' one, decades or lifelong commitment, but can still flirt with others. 

[Raúl]

9 hours ago, Apech said:

 

 

Hi and welcome,

 

I'll let people with more knowledge than me give you a detailed answer about the Dao and so on - or you could search the board, there's lots of threads on every subject.  I think probably overall you're doing ok, physically and health wise - I wonder if you have looked at working on your emotions, not in an indulgent way but on the basis that emotions and energy are closely connected (or some might say the same thing).  I'm not suggesting therapy or anything but just more observing of the cycles you go through and how you feel about things and yourself - try and tune that in with yoga and meditation perhaps - especially around the 11 -14 days thing (apart from hot chicks on the street  ).  I think you need quite a high level of harmony for celibacy and its hard to achieve - so don't feel down if you fail occasionally.  Just look with interest to see what's going on.

 

Just some thoughts.

 

Good luck

I think probably some therapy would be good for me, I'll do it someday, by now the work I have done in relation to that is writing my whole life from the beginning, and doing blogs and blogs about all my life and what I have felt. Then also, for me being a musician it is a therapy in itself, in the concerts I have sessions of 3 hours playing and then 2 hours for example, in those times you have songs from all genres coming to you and for me it feels absolutely therapeutical, if you have energy and you share that with the band it's very cool.

 

Also focusing on what I feel at day 11-14 is very accurate, being estable will only bring me greater goods, the more unstable mentally I get the easily a relapse will happen.

 

I also think celibacy requires a high level of harmony, but when you build a house you don't start it from the roof... Anyway, thanks for the insights!

[Raúl]

6 hours ago, thelerner said:

I'm not sure what Dao is, but in action I think its connected to harmony with nature; internal and external.  Thus I'd recommend against celibacy.  If you're not in a direct program that requires it then a healthy discipline might be better, ie finding harmony with your body's natural cycles, not fighting them.  There are sophisticated systems that use and transform 'jing' energy, that are advanced.  If you're not in such a formal system it tends to be skating up hill.  my opinion, there are others..

 

Systems.. when young look at a couple, try'em out.  I recommend not going for flashy promises, but look at ones that stress solid foundations.  You won't become the teacher, rather your most likely to become an average student, so look at those.  Are they happy?  healthy?  cult-like or knowledgeable?  

 

Ultimately you'll need to 'marry' one, decades or lifelong commitment, but can still flirt with others. 

 

Hi, I am sure I'll find plenty of info in the forum, I'll investigate.

 

In relation to celibacy, what I think is that it is recommended to every person on Earth, being the ideal using it only to create the life of children. If that has become hard is only because of the abuse we have done with our minds into life. I guess you could say I am in the discipline of being a musician and I need it to play better, work harder, be happier, have a greater life, help and share more... There are too many reasons of why celibacy should be one of my main goals next to working hard for me future.

 

They are sophisticated systems as you say, and I can't be indulgent simply because they are hard to understand and require wisdom, great insights, and good reading or having someone next to you as a master.

 

I'll for sure investigate to join a discipline, even if I have created mine with my own routines that I have found that help me, I am sure there will be benefits, so I'll see what I find.

 

Thanks!