Limahong Posted November 28, 2019 (edited) I have not arrived at TDB for quite a while and I feel a paradigm shift now. Such a shift is a part of living ~ neither good nor bad on the surface. But good/bad in reality ~ to each his/her own... I joined TDB in March 2017 and I am truly blessed to have met Jim... Phew I nearly missed him... Now I miss Jim for having met him. Edited November 28, 2019 by Limahong Enhance ... 5 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 On 11/28/2019 at 2:00 AM, manitou said: Gambei ! Cheers Jim! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dawei Posted November 29, 2019 It seems most fitting that the thread is in the Daoist Discussion as he was a stalwart 'philosophical daoist'. He had asked on his deathbed for no announcement and attention of himself on TDB but a coming 1 year eulogy from members seems useful to remember him. My only regret is that he was here in FL and I never made time to meet him. In a weird way, I was able to observe and interact with him on TDB like I was in his living room anyways. I felt like I could always find him on any day discussing any and every topic. And that was part of his soul: While he maintain a strict individual sense of chinese daoist philosophy he saw the equality bestowed to all. I don't think I ever saw someone so capable to so staunchly defend their own beliefs and yet affirm his opposites they had a right to theirs. Due to this nature, he could talk in every single forum and subforum with ease. There is no argument his posting count is something nobody may likely ever get to and it is not because he was verbose but because he saw the value in everyone posting. He was the consummate welcomer. He defined how to treat one and all who came, and found something in their post, however brief, to raise the welcome flag. As I said, he was a strict philosophical daoist and even I butted heads with him at times. But his position was not because he did not believe in religious daoism but rather, there was no practical use to him (in his life). He did not debate whether another might find value in it and use of it. Herein was his greatness, his own naturalness in action. 11 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 1 hour ago, dawei said: Herein was his greatness, his own naturalness in action. Hi dawei, Before... ... Jim may be happy to know that some of his Tao Bums are very well connected outside of TDB ~ through trusted socialization. - Anand 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff Posted November 29, 2019 Marblehead was a very special person. We had some very good discussions, and I always appreciated how open he was to various points of view. Definitely one of the good guys... 7 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 51 minutes ago, Jeff said: Definitely one of the good guys... Hi Jeff, But of course... (When I used these three words on Jim ~ he would respond... Hehehe...) - Anand 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Earl Grey Posted November 29, 2019 (edited) During some of my more melancholy moments, I admired Jim and once dreamed of him while he was alive meeting me in the event that I were to die without having achieved everything I wished I could in life, that he would let me know the same as what Ben says to Peter above (image from Death of Spider-Man). After his passing, I regret not being here because I had left during the time the forum and admin had essentially become a right-wing mouthpiece and there were serious signs of hypocrisy and unethical practice throughout here, from unethical posting of instructions of a system that is also dangerous to the rudeness of people whom I wonder how the hell they became admin. Had I known he would leave us, I'd have made more effort to speak with him, because he was a friend to all. I dreamt as well about seeing him and leaving something for his two sons, and asked before an admin removed my post about his two sons and a message for them, but I suppose whatever came through was what was meant to be shared and what I remember or get out of it. Jim is still sorely missed, and he was a friend to all, even those we find difficulty being friends with, for even his own opinions never weighed more than his humanity, his personality, and character. Edited November 29, 2019 by Earl Grey 6 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 6 minutes ago, Earl Grey said: I admired Jim Hi Earl, You have come across as a very intelligent kid to Jim. May I say this on his behalf...? "You did good, Kid". - Anand 1 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 On 11/28/2019 at 5:13 AM, wandelaar said: Maybe it's an idea to make a topic with favorite Marblehead quotes... Hi wandelaar, Jim really enjoyed poking fun at you on... ... sometimes close to a point of being 'sadistic'. I can almost hear him chuckling now... When he poked fun at me ~ at times I hit back at him concretely with the full backing of... - Anand 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wandelaar Posted November 29, 2019 11 minutes ago, Limahong said: Hi wandelaar, Jim really enjoyed poking fun at you on... ... sometimes close to a point of being 'sadistic'. I can almost hear him chuckling now... If he did I didn't realize it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 2 minutes ago, wandelaar said: If he did I didn't realize it. Hi wandelaar, He's a crafty fox at times. Feel good that these gave him joy... You did it! - Anand Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 29, 2019 13 hours ago, dawei said: He was a stalwart 'philosophical daoist' Hi dawei, Yes ~ he like(s/d) us to be clear on this. Very wise of him... he can/could be almost infinite... Tao Te Ching - chapter 42 The Tao begot one. One begot two. Two begot three. And three begot the ten thousand things. - Anand 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 30, 2019 (edited) ME AS A NEW KID ON THE TDB BLOCK (A) I first arrived at TDB on 31 March 2017 at the Welcome Section... Hello Limahong, and welcome. Lots of folks here talk about internal alchemy. And we have Daoists, Buddhists, and Hindus so lots of people for you to talk with. You are welcome to jump right in ongoing discussions, revive an older thread, start a new thread of your own, or start a discussion in the "Newcomer Corner" sub-forms to expand on your introduction or ask general questions to help you get started. May you enjoy your time here. Marblehead" (B) On 5 April 2017 - I started to spread my wings... Hi Marblehead, I will now take my leave from the Welcome Section. Thank you for having me. I will within short move into the big domain of TDB. What will I do there? Or how will I go about there? I will search, hang around, creep around, stalk, rummage, lurk … Not to worry, I will be on my best behavior - not devious, suspicious, shady, shifty, fishy … Believe I will be 'person' focused – i.e. follow the threads of selected/reviewed bummies. It will be more holistic per person and less fragmentary. As for subjects, I will first track the ‘jing/qi/shen framework’ as reflected in a Deltrus posting. I am a graduate from a few 100 days challenges. I would like to refine myself here. If there are no postings that require responses from me, I will disappear for a while. It is not goodbye but until soon. - LimA It all started with Jim. Jim - it is not goodbye but until soon. - Anand Edited November 30, 2019 by Limahong Enhance ... 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
manitou Posted November 30, 2019 21 hours ago, dawei said: He had asked on his deathbed for no announcement and attention of himself on TDB but a coming 1 year eulogy from members seems useful to remember him. I am so glad you mentioned this! I wrote a eulogy and expression of a goodbye from TDB's and I submitted it to management. I told them that it was just something for them to change, as sometimes it's easier to start if there's a bit of a foundation. I never heard anything more (and I think it was at a period of time when I wasn't signing in much) and just assumed they modified it to their liking and called it in to Jim's friend, who was coordinating all this. But I got a call from Jim's friend (can't remember his name) after the funeral, and he wondered why it was that the Dao Bums hadn't written anything up? He had been waiting to get it - I wish he'd called me earlier. I told him that I was so sorry about the mix-up and I felt terrible about this, and have since the funeral. I am so relieved that Jim specifically said that he didn't want anything written up, as I didn't know that before. I didn't call the guy back to clarify that, nor did I mention this to anybody at TDB's. For what purpose, I thought? So this bit of knowledge now puts me out of my misery, so to speak Thank you, dear Dawei! 6 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppy Zhang Posted November 30, 2019 Damn. Seems like every time I check in on the Bums I get some bad news I didn't know him personally but he always had very even keeled responses even in the threads from the wilder days. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dawei Posted November 30, 2019 2 hours ago, manitou said: I am so glad you mentioned this! I wrote a eulogy and expression of a goodbye from TDB's and I submitted it to management. I told them that it was just something for them to change, as sometimes it's easier to start if there's a bit of a foundation. I never heard anything more (and I think it was at a period of time when I wasn't signing in much) and just assumed they modified it to their liking and called it in to Jim's friend, who was coordinating all this. But I got a call from Jim's friend (can't remember his name) after the funeral, and he wondered why it was that the Dao Bums hadn't written anything up? He had been waiting to get it - I wish he'd called me earlier. I told him that I was so sorry about the mix-up and I felt terrible about this, and have since the funeral. I am so relieved that Jim specifically said that he didn't want anything written up, as I didn't know that before. I didn't call the guy back to clarify that, nor did I mention this to anybody at TDB's. For what purpose, I thought? So this bit of knowledge now puts me out of my misery, so to speak Thank you, dear Dawei! Thank you Manitou... many hugs This was a bit of a surreal time for staff as MB was so beloved among the board and staff who found him an inspiration of how to balance staff and a voice on TDB. When staff got notice that his wish was for us not to announce his 'further travels', the staff was unanimous in feeling to comply but we put some stuff in the private areas so there was a limited view of the news. I will say, I am glad Lima decided to start a thread. We no longer need to consider this is an announcement of his departure but a heartfelt, dao-speed to what our minds mapped as a physical human we called Marblehead. The staff, at the time, was not directly involved with a notice but we accepted the information we received. So I don't want to overstate some kind of information about him. We were acting mostly on what was passed along to us but we took it as his desire. You have relayed as interesting angle on the circumstance. It shows that in every corner, everyone was thinking about him. Our picture of those events gets clearer with each window that opens. 3 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 30, 2019 3 hours ago, manitou said: So this bit of knowledge now puts me out of my misery, so to speak Hi Barbara - good closure in reality? 7 minutes ago, dawei said: You have relayed as interesting angle on the circumstance. It shows that in every corner, everyone was thinking about him. Our picture of those events gets clearer with each window that opens. Hi dawei, Each window that opens ~ a clear closure follows... yin-yang? - Anand 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
manitou Posted November 30, 2019 (edited) 13 hours ago, Limahong said: Hi Barbara - good closure in reality? Yes, Anand. Fairly good closure. Edited November 30, 2019 by manitou 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted November 30, 2019 14 minutes ago, manitou said: Yes, Anand. Fairly good closure. Hi Barbara, A good closure is a good closure. Period. How sure are you that Jim is not with Joseph... for having met you? You remember...? During this remembrance, XYZ sent me this via PM - "It was really nice to see your post for Marbs. I don’t think I told anyone but my dad also passed away last year, too, and that week I had a dream they were talking to each other. 💛" ... I trust XYZ will not mind my sharing thus. - Anand 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Starjumper Posted November 30, 2019 I enjoyed the way Jim had a way of seeing the positive side of things, and how he helped Anand get started in the forum. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
manitou Posted November 30, 2019 49 minutes ago, Starjumper said: I enjoyed the way Jim had a way of seeing the positive side of things, and how he helped Anand get started in the forum. Yes, bless Jim's heart for bringing Anand along. Jim also had a cute little troll-like quality at times, and he clearly passed it on to his protege. 2 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted December 1, 2019 (edited) Hi ilumairen, Barbara, steve, Nintendao and... Happy to note that 8 December 2019 falls on Sunday. Do you all still have the regular pow-wows on Sundays at... The Quiet Corner Bar & Grille ? If so ~ can a special sit-in be organized for Jim on 8 December... next Sunday? Again if so ~ I can contribute some finger food. Please let me know early so that I can shop, cook, bake... on time. All blessings if there is going to be a pow-wow today at the Bar & Grille... - Anand Edited December 1, 2019 by Limahong Enhance ... 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Limahong Posted December 1, 2019 (edited) Hi All, Has/can anyone felt/feel a certain energy flowing in/through this thread ~ in his/her own Way... in relation to Jim's Way? What have we rubbed off from Jim per a perception of his embrace of the... ? In some ways are we ONE with Jim...? Really? - Anand Edited December 2, 2019 by Limahong Enhance ... 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ilumairen Posted December 1, 2019 12 hours ago, Limahong said: Hi ilumairen, Barbara, steve, Nintendao and... Happy to note that 8 December 2019 falls on Sunday. Do you all still have the regular pow-wows on Sundays at... The Quiet Corner Bar & Grille ? If so ~ can a special sit-in be organized for Jim on 8 December... next Sunday? Again if so ~ I can contribute some finger food. Please let me know early so that I can shop, cook, bake... on time. All blessings if there is going to be a pow-wow today at the Bar & Grille... - Anand You can announce it there, dear Anand, and I'll certainly join you. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
