The power of self-regulation, and knowing one's audience

[dwai]

I cannot emphasize enough the value and power of self-regulation in human interactions. This is especially true for online interactions (such as on TDB or other social media platforms). 

 

I understand that people have different views and opinions, but we need to temper our enthusiasm for expressing our opinions with how they are perceived by our peers.

 

This comes down to the age-old adage - "know your audience." 

With the right audience, a particular opinion or viewpoint can be downright scintillating—the person expressing said thoughts might be perceived as a rockstar or celebrity. However, if the opinion and the audience are at odds, it can lead to a terrible experience for both. 

 

I'm not suggesting we should be disingenuous or pretend to conform to our peers, but how many times does a message that is not well-received need to be repeated to the same audience? Maybe we must introspect and figure out why our message is poorly received.  This is where self-regulation comes into play. A skillful communicator will realize that their message is not generating the kind of response they were expecting and either re-evaluate their viewpoint, modify their message, or recognize that their target audience needs to be different. 

[liminal_luke]

I often realize in advance that a given post won´t be well-received (or, more accurately put, received at all) by it´s intended online audience but -- what can I say? -- I´m addicted to the heroin of my own opinions.  Seven thousand twenty-two posts and counting!

[dwai]

2 minutes ago, liminal_luke said:

I often realize in advance that a given post won´t be well-received (or, more accurately put, received at all) by it´s intended online audience but -- what can I say? -- I´m addicted to the heroin of my own opinions.  Seven thousand twenty-two posts and counting!

Apparently you found the right audience here with me  

[Thrice Daily]

It’s awesome that the group is split into sub groups to help reduce this. 
 

Some issues are tough nuts to crack though no. Like the rocks that are not shaped with force, but a continual exposure to water (or a cataclysmic upheaval  )

 

Really it sounds like you might have a specific gripe? Is there a specific message that is cheesing you off?

 

One thing I remember about Vippasana , sitting at the front and hearing the teachers answer the questions. Almost every meditator, almost every question, almost every time without fail. Teacher would listen to the problems of the student then say,

 

”simply return to your sensation” 

makes me smile now but cheesed me off at first. Most questions answer themselves in their own sheer silence,

but not on Daobums 👍 

Edited October 15 by Thrice Daily

[forestofclarity]

On 10/14/2024 at 12:49 PM, liminal_luke said:

I´m addicted to the heroin of my own opinions.

 

Totally stealing this!