Sir Darius the Clairvoyent Posted Thursday at 03:20 AM (edited) Original title: How does one gets ones life in order Changed due to the following post About every new yeaar (I used to) set goals and plan on which aspects i wanted to improve on, what i wanted to achieve and how. If I am serious about improving my situation.. which I am not sure I am haha. Anyway, what process do you use, if any? Edited Thursday at 09:40 AM by Sir Darius the Clairvoyent Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sir Darius the Clairvoyent Posted Thursday at 09:25 AM (edited) I have now done the work. I realize that few if any will bother read, and that it would be more fitting in the personal blog section. Ive decided to share because I think it would be effective for me, and potenially helpfull to the two people who might scim trough it. Honesty is key. 2025 – a year to improve Introductory Thoughts That’s how everything in life is. Not just for myself, but also for what I’m made of, those around me, and my environment – the planet. We are an ecosystem, a superorganism. It is my duty and my purpose. Hope, Inspiration, and Responsibility Our Best Day Spoiler Come and listen to the light as the day breaks, The sun lifts its trumpet to its mouth. Listen to the white butterflies’ wingbeats; This day can be our best day. The path we walked yesterday is just as new, Secret as at our first morning. We shall meet much, and we shall master much; Today can be our best day. Come and listen to the depths as we row ashore, Hear the jellyfish tune its strings. Hopeful is the tone in a fish splash; This day can be our best day. Our fjord is just as new, blue, and clear; Your gaze is free, and your back just as straight. We shall meet much, and we shall master much; Today can be our best day. Dear, listen to the darkness when our day is gone, The night hums over distant hills. Much the day has given us, in large and small, More, perhaps, than we have understood. The moon above the yard and roof is just as new But says nothing about our next morning. We shall meet much, and we shall master much; Tomorrow shall be our best day. Guy Ritchie’s Philosophy: Be the Master of Your Own Kingdom Spoiler "You have to take full responsibility for everything that you do. Why be subservient? You must be the master of your own kingdom. You've got to own things. You can't just walk into things with your eyes half open. You're walking into things with your eyes fully open. You've got to know what you're getting into. You have to take possession of your life." "Is this a thought process that you have to constantly reaffirm, or is this something that you have to have?" "Yes. It's exactly that. It's exactly that. You drift on this point. And it is whatever form of meditation or mantra that you decide to espouse, there needs to be some period in your day where you remember that there's a world out there trying to tell you who you are, and there's a world in here that's trying to tell you who you are. Now where do you want to put your ex? Because the world outside is very noisy and very tempting. It has all the razzmatazz, all the tinsel, and all the glitter. It's got all the toys. But that's because you don't think you're enough in the first place. You don't think you're enough in the first place. The whole idea of the world to sell you stuff is, first of all, they have to make you feel bad about yourself in some way. And I don't resent this system, by the way. It is the system. But what's the expression? Don't hate the player. Don't hate the game. Love the game because you're in it mate. So own the game, accept the rules, and move on into the rules. The world will try and tell you who you are, and you have to tell yourself who you are. And there's this ongoing battle, and somehow there needs to be a reconciliation between the two. But in the end, you've got to have all the eggs in your basket. There's also an ongoing internal battle though, isn't there? There's the you that you want people to think you are, and there's the you who you are, and trying to figure out like, how do I figure out who I am? Do I have a correct assumption of how the people are perceiving me and how I actually am objectively, or am I bullshitting the world with this suit and pocket square? Yeah, I would say it's exactly the scenario that we're talking about. There's essentially only two worlds. There's the inner world of energy and there's the outer world of energy. There's two identities. One's real, one's false. The external world is, I'm asking you to tell me who I am. That's what we're all playing at. And as soon as you start playing that game, we run into all sorts of trouble. Call it the ego, call it whatever you want to call it. But that's the dynamic that we're in, and somehow we have to give ourselves enough confidence to reassure ourselves that we are enough. However, I enter the game because I've got to move on in the world. I've got to crack on in the world, and I know there's loads of temptations that come along the way. So I will own the suit. I'm going to wear the suit, but I'm going to own the suit. Now I don't mean by paying for it. I mean by owning it. It's now my suit. It's my idea to put on this suit. I have to personalize it in some way. I have to understand a narrative that allows me to own that suit, and thereby I put on my suit of armor and I come out into the world and guess what? I'm having a good time because I'm owning the suit. It's what the essence of narrative is. I'm a storyteller. The essence of narrative is only about this dynamic. There is nothing else in a story other than this dynamic. So the struggle between other people's perceptions and your own wants and desires and who you truly are, your significant real self. That's it. That's all there is. You tell me a story that we engaged in that's famous that's not about this journey." Hardrådes Saga My wounds were bleeding as I rode; And down below the bondes strode, Killing the wounded with the sword, The followers of their rightful lord. From wood to wood I crept along, Unnoticed by the bonde-throng; 'Who knows,' I thought, 'a day may come My name will yet be great at home.' The Soul (245c–249d), chariot anaology by Socrates Spoiler He begins by briefly proving the immortality of the soul. A soul is always in motion, and as a self-mover has no beginning. A self-mover is itself the source of everything else that moves. So, by the same token, it cannot be destroyed. Bodily objects moved from the outside have no soul, while those that move from within have a soul. Moving from within, all souls are self-movers, and hence their immortality is necessary. Then begins the famous chariot allegory. A soul, says Socrates, is like the "natural union of a team of winged horses and their charioteer." While the gods have two good horses, everyone else has a mixture: one is beautiful and good, while the other is neither. Quotes Carl Jung – Ending Your Inner Civil War Spoiler "In order to help a patient, a doctor must approach this person with unprejudiced objectivity. A doctor cannot help a patient if he cannot accept him, regardless of his own morals and values. And we can only accept another person if we accept ourselves first. Because only through acceptance, we can acknowledge the totality of our being and know that the evil within us is also within everyone else. We ourselves are the enemy we despise. Hence, 'love thy enemy' also means 'love thyself.' As we shouldn’t condemn an animal for being hostile, we shouldn’t condemn a human being for doing the same thing, even when it’s irrational. Denying one’s humanity will get us nowhere." "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." — C.G. Jung "Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." — C.G. Jung "Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." — C.G. Jung "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." — C.G. Jung No doubt this also sounds very simple. In reality, however, the acceptance of the shadow-side of human nature verges on the impossible. Consider for a moment what it means to grant the right of existence to what is unreasonable, senseless, and evil! Jordan Peterson Spoiler “When you have something to say, silence is a lie.” ― Jordan B. Peterson “To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life, with eyes wide open. It means deciding to voluntarily transform the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order. It means adopting the burden of self-conscious vulnerability, and accepting the end of the unconscious paradise of childhood, where finitude and mortality are only dimly comprehended. It means willingly undertaking the sacrifices necessary to generate a productive and meaningful reality." ― Jordan B. Peterson "You're going to pay a price for every bloody thing you do and everything you don't do. You don't get to choose to not pay a price. You get to choose which poison you're going to take. That's it." ― Jordan B. Peterson (Personal) guidelines for Life Spoiler THE ONLY ABSOLUTE REQUIREMENT I SET FOR MYSELF IS TO MAKE A TO-DO LIST AT LEAST FIVE DAYS A WEEK If you want a good life, be good. Life is best when shared. Take care of yourself as you take care of others. Be yourself, but play the game. Be honest – first and foremost with yourself. Enjoy life's small pleasures. Everything is connected – nurture your environment, including yourself and what youre made of. Do something for others. One foot in the known, one in the unknown – face the dragon. Relax, work, have fun. Know thyself. routines Keep perspective Reach for your potential Better together, but if you dont like yourself, youll always be lonley Keep searching We live, might as well make the most out of it daily meditation Aurelius - meditations Spoiler "You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength."— Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) "Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them." — Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." — Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) "Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth." — Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) "Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one." — Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) "It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live." — Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) __________________________________________________________________________ Karma in accordance with Dharma: Spoiler "SHOW GOOD WILL TO ALL Be fearless and pure; never waiver in your determination or your dedication to the spiritual life. Give freely. Be self-controlled, sincere, truthful, loving, and full of the desire to serve. Realize the truth of the scriptures; learn to be detached and to take joy in renunciation. Do not get angry or harm any living creature, but be compassionate and gentle; show good will to all. Cultivate vigor, patience, will purity; avoid malice and pride Then, Arjuna, you will achieve your divine destiny." — Bhagavad Gita BG 2.3: O Parth, it does not befit you to yield to this unmanliness. Give up such petty weakness of heart and arise, O vanquisher of enemies. 16. O Sun, sole traveller of the Heavens, controller of all, Surya, son of Prajapati remove thy rays and gather up thy burning light. I behold thy glorious form; 1 am he, the Purusha within thee. Isha Upanishad ___________________________________________________________________________ Sacred texts Havamal Spoiler 3. Fire he needs | who with frozen knees Has come from the cold without; Food and clothes | must the farer have, The man from the mountains come. 4. Water and towels | and welcoming speech Should he find who comes, to the feast; If renown he would get, | and again be greeted, Wisely and well must he act. 9. Happy the man | who has while he lives Wisdom and praise as well, For evil counsel | a man full oft Has from another's heart. 12. Less good there lies | than most believe In ale for mortal men; For the more he drinks | the less does man Of his mind the mastery hold. 16. The foolish man thinks he will live forever if he keeps away from fighting; but old age won’t grant him a truce, even if the spears do. 18. He alone is aware | who has wandered wide, And far abroad has fared, How great a mind | is guided by him That wealth of wisdom has. 21. The herds know well | when home they shall fare, And then from the grass they go; But the foolish man | his belly's measure Shall never know aright. 22. A paltry man | and poor of mind At all things ever mocks; For never he knows, | what he ought to know, That he is not free from faults. 23. The witless man | is awake all night, Thinking of many things; Care-worn he is | when the morning comes, And his woe is just as it was. 34. Crooked and far | is the road to a foe, Though his house on the highway be; But wide and straight | is the way to a friend, Though far away he fare. 36. Better a house, | though a hut it be, A man is master at home; A pair of goats | and a patched-up roof Are better far than begging. 44. If a friend thou hast | whom thou fully wilt trust, And good from him wouldst get, Thy thoughts with his mingle, | and gifts shalt thou make, And fare to find him often. 47. Young was I once, | and wandered alone, And nought of the road I knew; Rich did I feel | when a comrade I found, For man is man's delight. 48. The lives of the brave | and noble are best, Sorrows they seldom feed; But the coward fear | of all things feels, And not gladly the niggard gives. 59. He must early go forth | whose workers are few, Himself his work to seek; Much remains undone | for the morning-sleeper, For the swift is wealth half won. 61. Washed and fed | to the council fare, But care not too much for thy clothes; Let none be ashamed | of his shoes and hose, Less still of the steed he rides, 68. Fire for men | is the fairest gift, And power to see the sun; Health as well, | if a man may have it, And a life not stained with sin. 69. All wretched is no man, | though never so sick; Some from their sons have joy, Some win it from kinsmen, | and some from their wealth, And some from worthy works. 77. Cattle die, | and kinsmen die, And so one dies one's self; But a noble name | will never die, If good renown one gets. 78. Cattle die, | and kinsmen die, And so one dies one's self; One thing now | that never dies, The fame of a dead man's deeds. 139. I ween that I hung | on the windy tree, Hung there for nights full nine; With the spear I was wounded, | and offered I was To Othin, myself to myself, On the tree that none | may ever know What root beneath it runs. - 140. None made me happy | with loaf or horn, And there below I looked; I took up the runes, | shrieking I took them, And forthwith back I fell. - 141. Nine mighty songs | I got from the son Of Bolthorn, Bestla's father; And a drink I got | of the goodly mead Poured out from Othrörir. - 142. Then began I to thrive, | and wisdom to get, I grew and well I was; Each word led me on | to another word, Each deed to another deed. 166. Now are sung the High-one’s songs, in the High-one’s hall, to the sons of men all-useful, but useless to the Jötun’s sons. Hail to him who has sung them! Hail to him who knows them! May he profit who has learnt them! Hail to hose who have listened to them! Hymn to Zeus Spoiler Most honored of immortals, many-named one, ever omnipotent, Zeus, prime mover of nature, steering all things by your law, Greetings! For it is proper for all mortals to speak to you: For we all descend from you, bearing our share of your likeness We alone, of all mortal creatures that live and move on earth. So, I shall make song of you constantly and sing forever of your might. Truly, this whole universe, spinning around the earth, Obeys you wherever you lead, and willingly submits to your rule; Such is the servant you hold in your unconquerable hands, A double-edged, fiery, ever-living thunderbolt. For by its strikes all the works of nature happen. By it you direct the universal reason, which pervades all things Intermixing with the great and small lights of the heavens. Because of this you are the greatest, the highest ruler of all. Not a single thing that is done on earth happens without you, God, Nor in the divine heavenly sphere nor in the sea, Except for what bad people do in their foolishness. But you know how to make the crooked straight And to bring order to the disorderly; even the unloved is loved by you. For you have so joined all things into one, the good and the bad, That they all share in a single unified everlasting reason. It is shirked and avoided by all the wicked among mortals, The wretched, who ever long for the getting of good things, Neither see nor hear God’s universal law, By which, obeying with understanding, they could share in the good life. But instead they chase after this and that, far from the good, Some in their aggressive zeal for fame, Others with a disordered obsession with profits, Still others in indulgence and the pleasurable exertions of the body. [They desire the good] but are carried off here and there, All the while in zealous pursuit of completely different outcomes. But bountiful Zeus, shrouded in dark clouds and ruling the thunder, Protect human beings from their ruinous ignorance; Scatter it from our souls, grant that we might obtain True judgment on which you rely to steer all things with justice; So that having won honor, we may honor you in return, Constantly singing of your works, as it is proper For mortals to do. For neither mortals nor gods have any greater privilege Than to make everlasting song of the universal law in justice. Unkown (if you read this, much love) Spoiler 5. And the infant grew strong; yet its strength was in its weakness; and though to look at it from before was to look upon a man-child, from behind it was a little girl with golden hair. Now, when the child wished to tempt a maid he faced and approached her; and when the child wished to tempt a man she turned her back on him and fled. 4. But one day the child met, at the self-same hour, Love; and the man, seeing a woman, approached her eagerly, and the woman, seeing a man, fled, so that he might capture her. Thus it came about that the child met the child and wondered, not knowing that the child had lost the child. So it was that they walked side by side. 3. Then that part of the child that was man loved and lusted for that part of the child that was woman; and each knew not that each was the other, and felt that they were two and yet one, nevertheless one and yet two. And when one said: “Who art thou?” the other answered at the self-same moment: “Who am I?” 2. Soon becoming perplexed if I were Thou, or if Thou were I, it came about that the I mingled with the Thou, and the Thou with the I, so that six added to ten became sixteen, which is felicity; for it is the interplay of the elements. Four are the elements that make man, and four are the elements that make woman. Thus was the child reborn. 1. But though the man ruleth the woman, and the woman ruleth the man, the Child ruleth both its mother and father, and being five is Emperor over the kingdom of their hearts. To its father it giveth four, and to its mother it giveth four, yet it remaineth five, for it hath of its father an half and of its mother an half; but in itself it is equal to both its father and its mother; for it is father of fathers and mother of mothers. 0. Therefore is it One Whole, and not two halves; and being One is Thirteen, which is called Nothing when it is All-things. - by General J.F.C. Fuller __________________________________________________________________________ Maybe a change in perspective? Is it possible to simply enjoy excistence, as it is? Spoiler “The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” ― Alan Wilson Watts “I don't believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive.” ― Joseph Campbell “Look, here is a tree in the garden and every summer is produces apples, and we call it an apple tree because the tree "apples." That's what it does. Alright, now here is a solar system inside a galaxy, and one of the peculiarities of this solar system is that at least on the planet earth, the thing peoples! In just the same way that an apple tree apples!” ― Alan Watts “We seldom realize, for example that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society.” ― Alan Watts "No one imagines that a symphony is supposed to improve as it goes along, or that the whole object of playing is to reach the finale. The point of music is discovered in every moment of playing and listening to it. It is the same, I feel, with the greater part of our lives, and if we are unduly absorbed in improving them we may forget altogether to live them." — Alan W. Watts o alone, my disciples, You too, go now alone. Thus I want it. Go away from me and resist Zarathustra! And even better: be ashamed of him! Perhaps he deceived you… One pays a teacher badly if one always remains nothing but a pupil. And why do you not want to pluck at my wreath? You revere me; but what if your reverence tumbles one day? Beware lest a statue slay you. You say that you believe in Zarathustra? But what matters Zarathustra? You are my believers – but what matter all believers? You had not yet sought yourselves; and you found me. Thus do all believers; therefore all faith amounts to so little. Now I bid you to lose me and find yourselves; and only then when you have all denied me will I return to you… that I may celebrate the great noon with you. - Nietzche __________________________________________________________________________ 2024 - Reflections Spoiler In 2024, I completed my education. However, I did not actively pursue a job, which I attribute to perhaps being in the wrong field, along with struggles related to substance use, fatigue, and laziness. I gained significant weight, stopped exercising, and felt a pervasive sense of hopelessness. Been quite lonley. Yet, I know I can do better. This realization brings hope. Questions for Reflection: What does a good life mean to me? A fulfilling job that is social, reasonably well-paid, creative, and meaningful for myself and others. One where I can contribute to society and provide for a future family. What do I truly want? To travel more, nurture close friendships, and build a broader network. To contribute to others and society. To pursue meaningful hobbies. To maintain mental and physical health. To engage in lifelong personal development on every level. Strengths and Areas for Improvement Strengths: Socially adept, though a bit to blunt and stubborn at times. Kind-hearted, intelligent, creative, and curious. Honest Original thinker I might bend, but I don’t fall. Weaknesses: A tendency to think I’m the center of the universe. Highly impulsive. Might need to adjust more Can get overly emotional at times, when feeling betrayed or disrespected. A tendency towards lazyness/not giving a f Focus Areas for 2025 Spoiler Social Life Why: A key to happiness. Opens doors to opportunities. Alleviates loneliness. Goals: Maintain and build close friendships. Show love and care for others. Let go of people who don’t have my best interests at heart. Broaden my network. How: Smile at the world, and the world will smile back. Be authentic and avoid judgment—both of others and myself. Take initiative, say yes, and seek social settings through hobbies like chess, football, music, poker, and spiritual communities. Appreciate those who are there for me. Romantic Life Why: It’s one of life’s most beautiful aspects. I want to share my life with someone and have children. Goals: Gain clarity about what I want. Go on more dates and embrace the process. How: Build self-respect and confidence. Expand my network and engage socially. Understand the value of love despite the risks of pain. Mental Health and Mindset Why: Everything stems from the mind. Goals: Be at peace with myself. Overcome the need for substances. Stay motivated and handle challenges effectively. How: Accept help and focus on others. Meditate daily for at least 20-40 minutes. Balance high self-expectations with compassion. Engage in physical and mental activities, journaling, and meaningful projects. Learning and Development Why: Broadens perspectives and enables me to contribute more. Goals: Learn more, grow, and open new doors. How: Engage in conversations with people from diverse backgrounds. Travel, read, and explore life’s richness. Career Why: Financial stability, social interaction, self-respect, and meaningful contributions to society. Goals: Identify my ideal career path (e.g., economics, media, youth work, or physical labor). How: Network, apply consistently, and don’t hesitate to make calls. Physical Health Why: Improve self-confidence, health, and overall well-being. Goals: Reach 90 kg by losing 1 kg per week. How: Incorporate regular exercise, structured eating, and consistent sleep routines. Giving More Why: It feels rewarding and creates positive ripple effects. How: Volunteer work, active listening, and being kind to those around me. Family Why: Family has always supported me, and I want to nurture these bonds. How: Maintain regular contact and offer help unprompted. Spirituality, Wisdom, and Self-Development Why: Seeking wisdom helps balance diverse needs and leads to inner peace. How: Join communities, meditate, and explore life with curiosity and openness. Substance Use Why: It’s destructive in countless ways. Goals: Eliminate harmful substances and minimize use of others. How: Be patient, honest, and fill the voids in my life with meaningful activities. Plans for december and january Spoiler December 2024: Relax and enjoy the holiday season. Be mindful of those who may struggle during this time. January 2025: Set a daily alarm and establish a routine. Spend time at the library job-hunting and working on personal projects. Pursue hobbies and take small but consistent steps toward my goals. Ill end with some piano and this qoute by our friend @stirling The world is a mirror of your delusions. What hurts or feels like a "bad decision" in your life experience happens because of your attachment or aversion to a specific outcome. If you realize what that attachment or aversion IS and drop that pattern, you change the world. If you want to live in a world where people are kinder, be kind to other people. If you want to live in world without hate or violence, stop hating and being violent in your thoughts and actions. Stop responding with "bad decisions" and change the world. Edited Thursday at 11:57 AM by Sir Darius the Clairvoyent Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
