Abstaining from masturbation

[三江源]

hahahahahahahhaha ye

 

 

[maximolevel]

 

[h.uriahr]

 

A few screws missin in the ol engine??

[maximolevel]

A few screws missin in the ol engine??

 

english please

[hyok]

This Burning Dick, is it anything like The Iron Palm? Do I need a teacher?

 

I went near a month of this and experienced what you're referring to once. It literally did feel like it was burning, but not in a infectious way, more like energy burn.

[h.uriahr]

english please

 

There is something seriously wrong with you. Is that better? Did you actually understand that time?

[pacala]

english please

 

 

 

You sound slightly confused kid, I was just wondering if this is the right forum for you....

 

Maybe you should practice posting in a forum like this first: http://www.topix.com/forum/tv/dora-the-explorer

[mantis]

it could be the chi channels in the penis opening up

[Mal]

I'm not sure Mal. The longer I'm around in this world the notion that sex and love need to be somehow connected seems like a fairy tale. It's like couples get together with this wonderful notion that can't hold up to biology and the forces of our western society. Maybe we need to re-establish our love of ourselves?

 

Sort of meant we focus too much on sex mechanics and gloss over everything else that is part of relationships. Definitely need to love ourselves more, not a joke. Perhaps have sex with ourselves a bit less (that's the joke

 

Agree that the fairytale "happy ever after relationship" may just be a fairytale. Arranged marriages seem to have about as much chance of achieving "happy ever after" as a marriage based on love. Perhaps building everyone up to "Expect" blissful happiness ever after is unfair. The older notion of marrying for duty / family advantage may have been more "honest"

[Eric23]

Sort of meant we focus too much on sex mechanics and gloss over everything else that is part of relationships. Definitely need to love ourselves more, not a joke. Perhaps have sex with ourselves a bit less (that's the joke

 

Agree that the fairytale "happy ever after relationship" may just be a fairytale. Arranged marriages seem to have about as much chance of achieving "happy ever after" as a marriage based on love. Perhaps building everyone up to "Expect" blissful happiness ever after is unfair. The older notion of marrying for duty / family advantage may have been more "honest"

 

After 33 years of marriage, I'm very thankful that my wife is also my best friend as well as my beloved. If it weren't for solo cultivation there would be no sex at all, keeps me from going bonkers. My experience leads me to believe that marriage is at it's root a communal living business agreement and if everyone is happy, a good environment to raise children. The traditional family has a lot going for it, it's the structure we have for raising the next generation and then they take care of those who raised them. Now that I'm in so deep and for so long, the pragmatic nature of the beast is very apparent and any romantic ideals once held have long since been dashed. Not altogether a bad thing.

[Walker]

Nomad, you should definitely head on down to a doctor or your local free clinic and get checked out for STDs. Chlamydia sounds like a possibility. Chlamydia can manifest UTI-like symptoms, and can lie dormant for months or years after your infection before starting to cause any noticable trouble.

 

Question for all you current and former male "voracious sexual beasts," how're you doing on grey hairs?

[宁]

After 33 years of marriage, I'm very thankful that my wife is also my best friend as well as my beloved. If it weren't for solo cultivation there would be no sex at all, keeps me from going bonkers. My experience leads me to believe that marriage is at it's root a communal living business agreement and if everyone is happy, a good environment to raise children. The traditional family has a lot going for it, it's the structure we have for raising the next generation and then they take care of those who raised them. Now that I'm in so deep and for so long, the pragmatic nature of the beast is very apparent and any romantic ideals once held have long since been dashed. Not altogether a bad thing.

 

 

jeez that's too bad... someone once told me that married folks masturbate a lot often than the young

 

i can understand that marriage means a lot of compromises and sacrifices for the sake of the children

 

but sex is the root of our self, and eventually we transmit our ideas and practices on it, to the new generation, one way or another

 

i'd choose cheating instead, it looks a lot healthier on many levels

 

i mean, if i'd have to choose between letting my children (...say subcounsciously) be 'solo-cultivators' or, on the other hand 'womanizers' , i'd choose the second...

 

better would be, that this situation should not even exist... it does not look so healthy. what happened to the good old normal sexual life of the married couple?

 

sorry if it looks too critical... maybe i don't have your age and experience

Edited December 30, 2008 by Little1

[Bum Grasshopper]

Sounds to me that such excessive pounding of the pud has resulted in some nerve damage. The burn you feel is nerve endings regenerating. This can take 6 months, to over a year to happen. The good news is that you will have renewed sensitivity in your little friend.

 

Hope you learned your lesson.

[Fire Dragon]

Thanks everyone.

 

My problem isn't an addiction to masturbation - in fact I'd rather not do it, but I've been doing it again lately because it lessens the burn I find, even though it is just not as pleasurable as before.

 

The thing is, when I abstain, I never get "wet dreams" so I think all the prostate fluid gets backed up causing all these problems. How am I supposed to dispose of seminal waste if I don't masturbate? I can't help but think it unhealthy not to masturbate...

 

Pranaman, I'm interested in your experience. So you're saying the tip of your dick began to burn after you stopped wacking it? How long did it take for that feeling to subside?

 

 

Hello

 

I think you should go to a vestern medical doctor to check if there is an infection. After that if they not find anything I think perhaps it might be good to masturbate sometimes, but try to do it moderately. And of course try to figure out what causes the pain to get better or what causes it to get worse. If there isn't a medical problem I am shore that you will find out how much or how less to mastrurbate is good for you. And with time the pain will be better.

 

About the healthyness or non healthy ness to masturbate. Many of the old taoist text about mens health advises you to be moderate with your ejaculations. Less ejaculation in higher years. At your age it might be ok to masturbate everyday, but less might be better. I think also that using porn, if you do, might have a possibility to add some problems. That is beacase getting to arroused and getting to much yang without a woman to be with might hurt you.

 

So my advise is to not use any porn at least not until the problem is solved. check with a doctor and perhaps also an acupunturist and be moderate and you will be fine. Why not try the standing exercise given as a suggestion. To do rooting migth add some earth yin energy that is cooling and that might help against the burning I guess.

 

Fire Dragon (well perhaps it should be your name and not mine )

 

 

By the way there is realy no waste needed to be ejaculated, why should it. Reading about the woman taoist they even not need to have menstruation, there will not be any waist for them either.

[Vajrasattva]

any way Dalai Lama have never taste sex well it must be so that is enough whit hand touch hahahahahahahahah

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How do you know????

 

THere are Higher Tantric practices done in Tibetan Buddhism that involve Nuns & Lamas.

[Mal]

After 33 years of marriage, I'm very thankful that my wife is also my best friend as well as my beloved. If it weren't for solo cultivation there would be no sex at all, keeps me from going bonkers.

 

18 yrs and no intercourse with partner this millennium

 

If people feel bad for me I think they underestimate the value of having a best friend Sex is everywhere, friends are harder to find. And there is a lot of fun to be had without intercourse.....

also it's only cheating if your not allowed too (I am VERY lucky )

 

Personally I use Cannabis. Would not have been able to stay in this relationship without it IMHO. It allows me to get past resentment over our sexual difficulties and appreciate the rest of our relationship, which is extremely good.

[Vajrasattva]

18 yrs and no intercourse with partner this millennium

 

If people feel bad for me I think they underestimate the value of having a best friend Sex is everywhere, friends are harder to find. And there is a lot of fun to be had without intercourse.....

also it's only cheating if your not allowed too (I am VERY lucky )

 

Personally I use Cannabis. Would not have been able to stay in this relationship without it IMHO. It allows me to get past resentment over our sexual difficulties and appreciate the rest of our relationship, which is extremely good.

 

the ultimate lover is inside you.

 

: )

[altiora]

18 yrs and no intercourse with partner this millennium

 

If people feel bad for me I think they underestimate the value of having a best friend Sex is everywhere, friends are harder to find. And there is a lot of fun to be had without intercourse.....

also it's only cheating if your not allowed too (I am VERY lucky )

 

Personally I use Cannabis. Would not have been able to stay in this relationship without it IMHO. It allows me to get past resentment over our sexual difficulties and appreciate the rest of our relationship, which is extremely good.

 

Now this topic is becoming fascinating. i have to admit when I saw the topic my first reaction was "Who let the monkeys in?!"

 

Anyway hit the nail on the head. After 6 years with my partner I've come to the conclusion that the sex/lust factor is the short term magnetism nature uses to draw us together; therein after the success of a marriage/partnership depends on the ability to replace that animal magnetism with a more durable and less tangible bond of loyalty of just being there for each other and working through experiences.

 

I know a lot of South Asians (and in their 20s and 30s) living here in New Zealand. They're as western as me, but they choose arranged marriages, because the family elders tend to assess the compatibility of potential partners in terms of temperament etc. Not surprising these couple have "grown" into love, and more often than not this growth starts from the pragmatic realisation by each partner that they've just got to make it work.

[Mal]

Not surprising these couple have "grown" into love, and more often than not this growth starts from the pragmatic realisation by each partner that they've just got to make it work.

Yes, vs this isn't working, I'm going to try someone else.....

 

low and behold after the sex/lust factor wears off again they are unhappy and moving on again...repeat repeat repeat.

[Martial Development]

If the burning flares up rather suddenly, when you think about sex but abstain from ejaculation, then it must not be an infection.

 

The solution? Stop thinking about sex but abstaining.

 

What, you wanted a complicated answer?

[Eric23]

i'd choose cheating instead, it looks a lot healthier on many levels ...

 

i mean, if i'd have to choose between letting my children (...say subcounsciously) be 'solo-cultivators' or, on the other hand 'womanizers' , i'd choose the second...

 

better would be, that this situation should not even exist... it does not look so healthy. what happened to the good old normal sexual life of the married couple?

 

sorry if it looks too critical... maybe i don't have your age and experience

 

Cheating can get really, really complicated. What happens to the good old normal sex life of the married couple is that life gets in the way and ruins the mood. Not to get too personal, but my wife has had more than her share of health issues over the years that directly destroyed her libido. I've met more men in their 40's and 50's who are in the same boat as me leading me to conclude that the good old normal sex life disappears around mid life.

[Pranaman]

Pranaman, I'm interested in your experience. So you're saying the tip of your dick began to burn after you stopped wacking it? How long did it take for that feeling to subside?

 

the tip, and the inside began to burn when I stopped wacking it. couldn't have been more than two, maybe three weeks till it went away. I would strongly advise standing in horse stance till your legs are shaking and your quadriceps catch on fire. It instantly took the pain away from my male obelisk and put it into my leg muscles, then on relaxing everything felt perfect.

[Pietro]

the ultimate lover is inside you.

 

: )

Guy, you got it the wrong way around.

It is you who are supposed to be inside the ultimate lover, not the opposite!

 

One of the reason why the penis can burn is if the energy got stuck over there, instead of being reabsorbed back.

[gomachols]

I have been masturbating since i was 6. often times for hours on end. around my early teens i peaked at about 25 times a day. it was the equivalent of an intense alcohol addiction. i would mentally masturbate on the way home from school. and then masturbate for about 3 hours before dinner and then another 4 or so at night. when i began getting erections and masturbating in more traditional ways with my hands (as opposed to carpet/pillows) around 6th grade, things got out of control. literally orgasming and losing my seed some 20 times a day, every day. 7 days a week. around 18 i started to take it down to 4 or so times a day...sometimes skipping 3-4 days. but it was never less than 10 times a week. its usually still close to three times a day, though i only ejaculate through masturbating every few days now. I can honestly say i am probably in the top 1000 masturbators through out all of history. the 20 times a day was sustained for several years. and several of those years included the use of cannibus (NOT GOOD!). i would stop off in public bathrooms, at school, at friends houses, in the car, parking lots, at a wake, anywhere, any time. in addition to this, i was also having a lot of sex. coming absolutely consumed me. in my ignorance i thought this was a symbol of my vitality, and perhaps in a way it was... but, it has had drastic repercussions, as you can imagine. i am an addict. my knees hurt like those of an 80 year old man, it feels like a cheese grater being worn on the inside of them, i have a small chest and irregular heart beat, i have random hair loss all along my legs due to nerve damage/poor circulation, i am constantly stressed and have a terrible attention span. despite an IQ of 153 and being labeled as gifted growing up... i have been unemployed for the last two years. i still masturbate during the afternoons despite having a girlfriend whose sex drive surpasses mine. some might consider the fact that the first thought that enters my head when passing a woman is ...'she has one too! they all do!' (vagina) to be the most harmful result of my copious whacking. i can't be around women without wanting to do very sexual things. (i personally don't have a problem with this, but i'm sure some of you saints out there do)

 

anyway, your 1-3 times a day is nothing. i'm still relatively fine, my legs look a little funky from hair loss and i have HUGE, Popeye calves, and i can't stand on my feet all day without knee pain.... but im okay i've experienced the sensations you've described and considering your situation, it is normal. the best thing to do is find something BETTER TO DO. if your mentality is to NOT MASTURBATE...you will be beating away like a humming bird in no time. the more i tried and thought "DO NOT MASTURBATE" well...id go a few hours, a day, two, and then id jerk off to 10 hours of porn. you cannot be focusing on it in such a negative way. the trick is... to simply not have the time to do it. get involved in other things.

 

though i don't entirely practice this: ideally i masturbate regularly still, once or so a day, slowly and without tension, but i do not cum. I may orgasm several times, but i keep my stuff. I will not orgasm unless its inside of my girlfriend and she is orgasming as well.

 

anyway. my point: I got you beat by like 6 times.... my stuff hasn't fallen off, im relatively healthy, and i am an excellent lover able to please the hardest safes to crack. its hurt my nerves/knees, aided in random hair loss, and my concentration is shot... but im not dickless and on a death bed.

 

another thing i've experienced is after several times of masturbating and orgasming but not ejaculating, is later in the night I might be very aroused, and sexually wanting, but my penis will stay completely flacid.. i could see the feeling of that as somewhat similar to a burning sensation. so maybe thats what you are feeling. for me, the trick is to hit the 'reset' button by just masturbating quickly and ejaculating. this usually fixes it and within minutes i have a nice hard healthy pan handle. i have even had to masturbate and ejaculate with a completely flaccid penis, but it still fixes it. that and vitamin b12. and water.

 

again, just get your life in such a way that you simply don't have the time to masturbate that much. when you get into bed, be so tired that you'lll pass out in a minute, and when you wake up in the morning, get out of bed immediately. don't take an active defense against it, you will lose. its just like the tao says, a society in need of law has already degenerated. move beyond it and be beyond it.

 

good luck.

[Spiritual_Aspirant]

I used to masturbate pretty regularly as a teen up until around 21, something like 1-3 times a day, sometimes even more, I was a voracious sexual beast. This past year I've been trying to cut down on the habit for cultivation reasons and for a variety of others (which I won't get into here). In short, I had no difficulty stopping, which perhaps my meditation sessions helped with. However there was a much larger problem looming on the horizon, something that I've never felt before until around the time I first began to abstain from the pounding of my trout.

 

The problem is that my dick really feels odd now, like a perpetual, dull, inner burning. My uretha is a little bit red as well, but the sensations feel more internal - from the middle half to the top of my dick. When I get erections now, which isn't very often anymore -- seems like I lost my libido in the process as well -- the head of my dick really STINGS. It is painful and my erections are weaker than they used to be, and harder to sustain.

 

This past week I've started up masturbating again daily (just once) in hopes of relieving this pain and it seems to be working a little bit, as erections no longer sting with such sultry displeasure.

 

Is this a common hurdle to overcome? How can I get over this problem, I would rather just not have to masturbate anymore because doing so is still somewhat uncomfortably and is a chore now. Masturbating is just not pleasurable to me anymore, in fact, my sexual appetite itself has declined almost to brink of nothingness.

 

1. STOP MASTURBATING

2. Go to a doctor.

3. Go to an energy healer, I would recommend a pranic healer. Part of a pranic healer's training is to treat problems like yours.

 

When the condition clears up, look for practices that can transmute sex energy into higher energy. Don't try to transmute it now while you still have the condition, chances are the energy of sex chakra is dirty and if you try to lift it up to the higher chakras you will just contaminate your system further. The way to deal with sexual energy in spiritual practice is to transmute it and not to repress/suppress it. Repressing it will only result in blockage and imbalance. If indeed you have a very vigorous sexual energy, this is good because it means you have more energy to transmute and it will help you develop faster.

 

If you have the time, learn Arhatic Yoga, you will be taught a simple but very effective way to transmute your sexual energy. www.arhaticyoga.org